remember that survey I took? I must have done something right, because I got a set of follow up questions in my email the other morning:
Can you remember what you picked as the most significant reasons for your interests in pornography?
Could you tell us more about why you chose these, and what they mean to you? Here are the questions again, to help you remember:
I want to feel involved in a world of sex out there - i'm endlessly fascinated by how diverse people are sexually...even people that i share interests and proclivities with can be quite different in how those interests are articulated and interpreted. i use my art to delve further into my own sexual persona and also to help me understand and appreciate the personae of those around me.
For recognition of my sexual interests - for a long time i didn't even understand my sexuality. Discovering pornography that articulated and explained those interests as well as creating my own pornography to further explore and refine those interests have given me a sense of comfort with my sexual self that many people i meet are still searching for. I consider myself very fortunate in this.
To find stories that dramatise what sex is all about - let's not forget that sex is amazingly fun to think about as well as participate in. Do you ever get tired of hearing about it?
To see things I might do - as secure as i am with my own sexuality, i realize there are probably things i have yet to experience or even consider experiencing. Good, thoughtful, creative pornography is always a welcome source for new things to try, just the same as a recipe book or clothing catalog. </b>
Are there any that you definitely would not have picked – ie, it's not just that others were more significant, rather, there may be some that are definite negatives for you? Could you say why?
For a laugh - one of the things i dislike about much mainstream pornography is the tendency to couch everything in "humor" or "satire" -- a sort of implied nervous laughter telling the viewer that what they're watching (and by implication feeling) isn't serious. While I find sex and porn enjoyable and fun to consume/create, i dislike anything that belittles desire - mine or anyone else's. If "for a laugh" is someone else's reason for consuming pornography, that's fine, but it's not mine.</b>
What would your ideal porn be like? And what part, ideally, would it play in your life?
I don't think I have any one "ideal" for what pornography should be. My own work is constantly changing and evolving so what I'm "looking for" is naturally always changing. Anything that has a feel of honest, safe, consensual, pleasurable sexuality is good with me. I think I've already gone on at length about the role pornography plays in my life, so I'll refrain from repeating myself (this time).
Is the point of looking at porn for you always to get to orgasm? If there is something else, what would you say it is?
I look for so many different things in pornography that sometimes orgasm gets lost in the shuffle. I look for creativity, artistic execution, honesty, integrity - the same things I would look for in any other art.
Is there a kind or kinds or porn that you positively avoid, or that turn you off? What don't you want to happen in it? What don't you want to see (particular types of bodies, acts, styles, settings, expressions and so on)?
So far, I have yet to see anything that completely turns me off, though I have a feeling that scat play wouldn't do much for me.
Can you tell us something about your last encounter with pornography, what was it, where was it, who was it with and how did you feel?
I did a photography shoot with a model last week that was very intense. We were dealing with ideas of gender play, which are a big turn-or for both of us. She was wearing a man's suit and a strap on soft-packer that she continuously played with as if trying to see what a man feels when masturbating. Seeing how thoughtful and curious, this role-reversal made her was a huge turn on for me. Actually just writing about it turns me on!
If and when you have children, what would you want them to know and to understand about pornography?
I'm not planning to have children, but if I did, I'd try to give them a healthy and mature understanding of what pornography is and what it means to people. I'd try to make sure there was no "forbidden mystery" involved in pornography, that it's just another artform that people use to communicate with the world.